I just want to start by reminding you of this— never underestimate the power of calm, peaceful space. In your mind. In your room. In your life. Anywhere. Clarity often breeds the thoughts we need to think and the feelings we need to feel the very most. The clear blue sky without clouds. The garden without weeds. Our mind in its most calm, clear space.
That being said, this week I’ve been thinking a lot about the concept of warmth, and that’s what I’m going to be sharing thoughts about today.
Why do people shy away from cold, rainy days? Why do we not want our coffee anymore when it gets cold? Why do we need to bundle up when the weather gets chilly? Why do all the animals come out when it’s nice and sunny outside? Why do we have bonfires, where everyone huddles around a source of heat?
Warmth is one of my words for 2019— one of the concepts that I want to bring into my life and also project out into the world. This word has been in my mind and on my heart for quite awhile, for a multitude of reasons. The first reason is that warmth is something I, personally, am strongly drawn to— no matter what context, but in people mostly; on the contrary, the opposite of warmth is usually something that pushes me away very quickly. The second reason being that warmth is my ultimate goal in regard to how I want to be perceived.
Ultimately, I think that the secret to being able to put warmth out is feeling it in yourself first.
Now to explain my reasoning a little better. The meditation I am doing right now— which is what has led me to this topic— is nourishing my brain more than I could have imagined. One of the things I really love about this meditation in particular is that it uses a technique which centers around warmth… crazy how life works.
The technique used is visualization— in this case, the visualization of a warm source of light right above your head. You are encouraged to think about the qualities of this warm light— spacious, calm, comfortable, peaceful. As you meditate, you are encouraged to imagine the warm light filling your body, and melting away any tensions that may be present. It goes even further to prompt you to imagine this feeling melting away previous patterns of thinking, prior beliefs of yourself, grudges you may be clinging to… basically, anything you wouldn’t associate with the feeling of the warm light.
This technique obviously really resonated with me, but beyond that, it really got me thinking— Why did this, in particular, work so well? How could simply imagining warmth flooding into your body calm worries and remove strains and anxieties and toxic thoughts? It all brought me back to my own thoughts about the power of warmth.
To cut straight to the chase, here’s the thing— we all have warmth at the source of our being. We were created out of pure love. Love isn’t cold, love isn’t distant, love isn’t bleak, love isn’t austere. Love is passionate, glowing, present, ablaze. Anything that covers up this very nature of ourselves is something has the ability to be melted away.
It’s not toughness that meditation encourages us to use to find peace and clarity.
It’s not boldness or force that can rid the body, mind, soul, and heart of discomforts that we experience.
It’s not aggressiveness, or even sheer strength. It’s not unwilling persistence that will get us where we want to go. It’s not steam-rolling over anything in our way that we don’t want. It’s not assertiveness, stubbornness, or forcefulness.
It’s warmth that we crave at the end of the day. It’s warmth that has the power to alter our mindset. It’s warmth that makes the way for changes in our life. It’s warmth that lingers.
That’s what we come back to when we realize toughness and boldness can’t solve feelings, and aggressiveness can’t warm up our hearts in all those dark corners.
It’s gentle, persistent warmth. Focused, intentional love. Presence. That’s what can melt away the feelings that don’t belong. That’s how we refine ourselves. That’s how we make sure we radiate our love.